FAITHFULNESS: SALVAGING THE MARITAL QUAGMIRE
“A faithful man who can find …” Proverb 20:6
“Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found faithful” 1 Cor. 4:2 KJV
“It is especially important that we are of fidelity and integrity” I Cor. 4:2 The Voice Bible
Faithfulness or trustworthiness is the total commitment to a cause, it is allegiance to a person, relationship or association unflinchingly with cords that cannot be broken. It is walking in agape love that knows no band that bind one’s obligation to the terms [1 Cor. 13] unwaveringly. It is showing fidelity, dependability, devotion or commitment to a person or a cause without failing. It is the looking away from assumed wrong or bad behavior of others while doing all that one is committed to. Furthermore, faithfulness is allowing God’s decree, ordinance, or laws to dictate one’s behavior even if our dearly beloved partner abuse the covenant that binds us together, It is to be realistic, truthful, and authentic [not carbon copy, unbranded product or double personality].
“Put false ways far from me and graciously teach me your law! I have chosen the way of faithfulness; I set your rules before me. I cling to your testimonies, O LORD; let me not be put to shame!” Psalms 119:29-31
Shame is automatically terminated and reproach driven far away from you if you correctly walk in total alliance with the fullness of the faith filled word of God that is revealed to you per time. The resultant effect is that when brethren see you, the fragrance of Christlikeness will flow to them from the virtues of faithfulness working in your inner man. Faithful brethren in marital relationship covers each other’s nakedness judiciously without any offence or exposure to third party marriage breakers.
Conjugal faithfulness can be exemplified by the caring for one another devotedly just like a mother cares for a suckling child, Couples must honor one another preferring other above self. The wife allowing the man to take his place of “crown prince” until the affection is reciprocated by him loving her so dearly that he dots on her like a pet dog nudging and all over her affectionately. The man should show his wife loving compassion and treat her as the best thing that ever happens to him after his salvation. She will begin to dot on him, submitting to him without any cajolement nor forcefully lording over her like a monster. No Tom and Jerry relationship please. Your lives is meant to complement one another, make room for transformation in an attitude that will help the peace and harmony of your blessed home.
Faithfulness is handling frictions with the spirit of love knowing that your partner mean no harm though his or her behavior veers off the standard of the scriptures just like all of us are not perfect and have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Bear it in mind always that when you look at the little speck in his or her eyes there is always a big log in your eyes that you failed to acknowledge and deal with, therefore stop being judgmental always. Mortify, kill or crucify every works of the flesh in your mortal body [Col. 3:5-10]. Kill earthly corruption and be celestially glorified.
There is no way that strife, bitterness, offenses, wrath, unforgiveness, all manner of complexes, ungodly disagreements and other vices will not want to show their ugly head but you must rise up above all evil characters and kill them. If any man be in Christ, he is a NEW CREATURE … Disassociate from all evil! No space here for evil antics anymore in Jesus mighty name.
When anger wants to rise up or show its ugly face, even if you are truly aggrieved or mistreated… take a deep breath and tell him [anger] … You don’t dwell here anymore! Anger gets you out of the spirit led life into fleshly, carnal, evil behavior and life style. Anger rests in the bosom of fools. You will say words that should not be uttered at all and you are ensnared by it or you will release a demon infested atmosphere in your home by it. Kill every joy killers before they kill your matrimonial peace and joy.
You owe one another the duty of lifting up holy hands before God and praying for one another fervently until manifestation of a better lifestyle is seen. The powerful word of God must be resident in your hearts and powerfully uttered in prayers continually committing one another to God daily who is able to save, heal, deliver and bless at all times. Both joint prayers and “aloneness with God” is essential so that you can always hear what the Spirit is saying for your next level and use it as weapon to “deny ungodliness” looming in the dark wanting to creep in to cause havoc. Furthermore, we must commune habitually with both God and our partner to keep both relationships going smoothly and in a happy joyous mood. We must be friends first before we become lovers in true essence!
“Ahimelech answered, “David is the most faithful officer you have! He is your own son-in-law, captain of your bodyguard, and highly respected by everyone in the royal court“1 Sam. 22:14 GNB
Beloved male partner in marriage, the above will be your testimony in Jesus mighty name. You will apply your heart to wisdom, have a godly caring attitude, you will be compassionate towards your darling wife. I decree that you are a faithful man and you will abound with blessings [Prov. 28:20] and grace of a leader shall rest upon your shoulder in Jesus mighty name. Be slow to speak, slow to wrath and quick to listen! Women talk and want to be heard; listen even if what she started to say seems to be nonsense, hear her out before you conclude on that matter! Be blessed!
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend” Prov. 27:6 KJV
Beloved female partner, if your “Prince Charming” say things that causes pain in your heart but you find out that it’s the truth, stop stalling or rationalizing self, accept the engrafted words from him that is able to save your soul. Delete every negative thoughts! Satan is a liar! Quickly agree after every disagreement! Submit to God. Give no place to the Devil!
“Friends mean well, even when they hurt you“. Prov. 27:6 ESV
Even if he hurt you sometimes which is bound to happen, know that he loves you dearly, he meant well and he is not out to cause you grieve or pains. Quickly agree with one another and do not let the sun go down on your wrath or fierce anger. “I AM SORRY” goes a long way in defueling or nullifying arguments, bickering and incessant quarrelling. End up in praying together every night and your life together will be forever blissful.
LEAVE ALL OTHERS & CLEAVE TOGETHER! IT IS CALLED ONENESS AND BONDING! GEN. 2:24
Cleaving symbolizes oneness and bonding of spouses portrayed by the fusing of the egg and sperm or embryo formation. Great mystery here is called “meiosis” whereby the fused zygote multiplies abundantly until the eyes, legs, arms and even heart become visible in the fetus. Hear me, except husband and wife fuse together, they cannot abundantly multiply in all areas of life. Fusing involves one mind, one hope, one thought pattern and goal and in one ceaseless pursuit of serving and obeying God. None cleavers have slow progress, stagnation, poverty and ill luck! Choose right and live heaven on earth!
“Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail. Love is eternal…” 1 Cor. 13:4-8 GNB